Thursday, September 11, 2014

The Pharisaical Syndrome - Leaders & Opponents

Jesus and the Pharisees...sounds like an indie-rock band, doesn't it?

I was having lunch with a ministry friend of mine and listening to him share about what God was saying to him regarding the future direction of his role and his church; he began to describe the hope that he had for this new and bright future, but also the nervousness that he felt for potential opposition to this future that he believes he is needing to create. This is a description of a leadership tension that is familiar to anyone who has had to lead people in a direction that wasn't a natural expression of where they wanted to go.

Jesus too faced this sort of tension...from the guys who could have backed up him, but instead were intent on killing him. These guys, referred to as Pharisees & other names, suffered from a human condition known as the Pharisaical Syndrome. This syndrome describes people who can be hypocritical, self-righteous & judgemental. While we all are capable of this type of behaviour, opponents to any form of leadership often exemplify these unbecoming characteristics. And the truth about leadership is that we will always have opponents to what we do or to who we are. Leaders learn to navigate through these tensions, trusting that the God they serve is larger than the perceived opposition they may face.

So how do you know when you are facing an opponent in the form of a Pharisee, or if the opposition you face is actually an invitation to refine your vision for the present or the future?

Here are four signs that you may be dealing with an opponent who suffers from the Pharisaical Syndrome.

1. Murder
Instead of supporting Jesus, the Pharisees engineered his death. Sometimes the opponents we face want to kill something inside of us as leaders. Maybe it's hope, maybe it's confidence, maybe it's something else. The goal of a Pharisee is to get rid of a potential problem or threat. The frustrating part of this reality is that sometimes Pharisees believe their intentions are God-honouring and helpful to the broader community. But the goal of this activity is ultimately to harm, and not to help...that's how you know the difference between someone who has succumb to the Pharisaical syndrome and someone who is speaking truth in love.

2. Pride
Pharisees didn't like Jesus because he threatened their spiritual control of the community. Opponents sometimes lash out because they too feel threatened in some way. Maybe covered up lies will be exposed or a long celebrate program initiative will be dismantled. If your opponent is attempting to protect themselves or something they've created in some way, you may be facing someone who's pride has been hurt.

3. Selfishness
The Pharisees had a different agenda than Jesus. All of us are motivated by something, and there are times when our motivation is distorted towards self rather than towards others. We may take "pride" in being the voice for the voiceless, but have we ever asked ourselves if someone ever invited us to play that role on their behalf? There are times when we need to speak up for justice, and there are times when our perceived pursuit of justice is simply a veiled form of selfishness. What's your opponent truly motivated by: self or others? In Jesus' case, his actions were motivated by his love for people, while the Pharisees were motivated by love of self.

4. Complexity
Taking something simple and making it more complex - the reality of the erosion of the Covenant first made by God and humankind by those who struggled with the Pharisaical Syndrome. Moses was given 10 commandments to give to the people of Israel...commandments that pointed to God's desire to be loved and to see his created beings love each other. When Jesus walked the earth, these 10 simple commands had evolved into a complex oppressive reality for the people of Israel. Opponents to your leadership may seek to create complexity or demand you conform to pre-existing complexity in some way. It's important to remember Jesus words "unless you change to become like little children" (Matt. 18:3) when we face the opposition of complexity. Simplicity is the currency of hope that the Kingdom of Heaven trades in. If something is more complex than it needs to be it's time to be reminded that living is simple.

Every leader faces opposition. See it. Process it. Respond appropriately. Sometimes our opponents are just like Pharisees.

Monday, September 8, 2014

Adventure #4 - Lost in Time

I recently received some of the childhood toys that my parents were storing in their basement for the last 25 years or so. My kids spent the better part of 2 days playing, exploring and celebrating what I once held dear.

These moments reminded me of something that is a key part of adventure...something that dads can very easily share with their own children - the PAST.

The past is a part of everyone's story. As my kids held up toy after toy, memories flooded to my mind, endless moments were my own creativity was nurtured and stirred. Here are some of my top ideas to help share your past (your story) with your kids:

1. Board Games
What games do you remember playing as a child? Are there current versions on hand that you can share with your kids? Go to garage sales, look on second hand websites or call older relatives so see if they have what you are looking for. Games are an easy way of sharing fun, laughter and memories with the next generation.

2. Movies
What stories captivated your as a youngster? If you've got a Netflix subscription, you may be able to find them and share them with your kids in fun new way.

3. Places to Visit
Did your parents, grandparents or relatives have a special tradition their shared with you? Maybe a place where they would always like to visit? My grandparents loved taking us kids to Dairy I look for every opportunity to take my kids for ice cream (partially because I love it, but also because I may have a dairy addiction)

4. Toys
Did your parents save some of your toys from your younger days? Find ways to introduce your kids to your childhood through stories and play time with toys.

5. Food
Did you have a favorite meal as a kid? Why not take an evening to make it with your family? Share the reason why you enjoyed it so much and ask them what their favorite meals are.

What other activities or experiences from a person's past can be used to create, strengthen and build relationships in the present?